Friday, March 17, 2006

Why Am I Not Asleep?

So I've had a problem with the small deposit. So "Where's Waldo" hiding? Seems a "5 day business hold" was placed on it. The funds will be released and available next week. At least I know why it hasn't shown up in my balance! And, fortunately, I haven't needed it immediately. Of course that meant I couldn't pay my uncle back the day of the placement but that might not be a horrible thing.

My other thought is Homeland Security probably alerted that I suddenly made a deposit that didn't match my profile and they're seeing if I have links to evil doers. Evil.

Doing ok today err... that would be yesterday now. It was time to place Mother at the cemetery and for Vegas to leave! I got 'volunteered' to do the physical placing by my brother. It was symbolically appropriate just given my relationship with Mother. Father's box is in good shape, the actual niche is concrete all sides and bottom. I had to sit and slid Mother's box into the ground on top of Father's. The area was deeper than I expected! I teared at the corners as the marker screws were put back in place. My cousin took a photo. Will probably get a copy or SIL will.

I don't know if we'll be happy with the new grave marker. The woman who had the paperwork was snippy and insisted there wasn't enough space to do what we were asking for. That's crap! We could see from other markers how many lines there were and how many others were just like we asked for. She was a cold, angry bitch. I know that's going to be a future battle. That can be Brother's problem as he signed off on it. If necessary I'll pay for the fucking correct marker!

Saw the car today, the work was piss poor. :/ The hood is clearly not aligned and some minor body damage was actually overlooked. My brother said driving the car is eery. It must be haunted by Mother. He is supposed to come out to house on Sunday.

Our Uncle actually picked me up and then we picked up Brother. A cousin was along. She's not blood related but Uncle adopted her when he married her mother. Even though neighbor couldn't make it, we were still four for the very informal service. I visited with him late this afternoon. Neighbor's wife has had a tough couple of days. He thought she might have been in a coma at one point. He doesn't need the stress.

Anyway, it was windy at the cemetery but a very nice, sunny day. Uncle said he was surprised Mother didn't want to go to sea like their parents but I said she had wanted that. Until Father passed. Coping with widowhood, she changed her mind!

After dropping off Brother, I went with Uncle and Cousin for a late lunch. I tried Sub Marina for the first time. Cousin learned a bit about me, my home bound habits, a bit about their origins, that I don't drive, etc. It all seemed a bit bizarre to her I'm sure. Uncle understood how that was; even he wasn't really allowed to take me or my brother places. Anyway, I'm glad to see the path she's on now. Her son is 10; she's going with Uncle and others to new state. She said she has a five year goal to own a house, even if it's just a trailer. That is a good goal!

I learned something Mother had never told me and I respect why she edited. She was a widow when she married my father. Prior husband was spouse abuser and died of cancer.

I also found out Uncle had no photo of his dad. Was happy to provide some very old photos for copying. Have many old photos! Some 100 year old photos look better than more recent ones. We are throw-away society now. Old photos were made to last!

Cat seems to have relaxed some. She's eaten more and had water. Brother is supposed to be out Sunday like I said but the rain has been expanded from Friday night, to thunder showers Saturday to even showers Sunday now. And cold! More hail! Dat is evil.

Vegas got home in one piece. We had awkward goodbye but it went ok. Now I've been up hours and hours longer than I should've. I've been bad! Are you reading this closely?

3 comments:

Anonymous said...

Nothing ever seems to 'go right' in life...

I'm trying to learn to not plan, or want, things so stringently - to try to accept (& be happy) with the bumps in the road.

Of course, I'm only ever accepting in the small things... when a big bump comes along I'm intensely annoyed and depressed.

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How were you bad? I read closely! You didn't Piggy, you weren't nice to Brother or SIL & you never sleep when you're meant to. Where is the badness?!?!

superlance said...

Ok, maybe it wasn't badness since I don't go to bed when I should. :P I've been trying. Just was in a mood last night. In one tonight too. Grrr.

Anonymous said...

You are always in a mood! :D

That is why I have installed a "Dru Mood Indicator (TM)" on MSN!

:D